the WOMANizer in him*

*emmmmm* this post might be sensitive, offensive, a form of comedy or better still Informative… Oh well, *ama* proceed any ways. I have been wanting to have a write up on ‘this’ but it wouldn’t be complete if not experienced I would say (this isn’t a *demsay issue*) *hugegrin*.
Recognising the personality traits of a womanizer, Casanova, lothario or tom cat will help protect you from men who use women. No more addictive love relationships!. The word “Casanova” evolved from an Italian womanizer who had over a hundred one night stands. Casanova , was a lady killer from Venice; he would wine and dine with women, charm them, make them feel beautiful and irresistible, take them to bed, and … move on to the next woman. Many womanizers have a “line” for picking up women; they have a whole strategy from start to finish. After you learn how to recognize a womanizer, you’ll see through his facade.

Womanizers are master manipulators. Though the words and may seem flirty and flattering, the behavior of lady killers is far from innocent. The sooner you learn to recognize a womanizer, the better off you’ll be! But remember: there’s a difference between being a womanizer and being a man who lies about cheating or having affairs. *smiles*
The Personality Traits of a Womanizer
Womanizers are charming. They’re attentive, interested, curious – and they make women feel special. Womanizers have one goal: to get a woman into bed as quickly as possible and then move on to the next one. They’re seducers who are addicted to the “power” they feel when seducing women. This is one way to recognize a womanizer: they’re addicted to the chase and challenge of love.

Womanizers are often in touch with women’s feelings, and can adeptly manipulate those feelings to their advantage. For instance, a womanizer will express empathy for a woman’s professional or personal problems, and let the woman vent her feelings. Once she feels comfortable and relaxed with the lady killer, he’ll make his move.

Womanizers are good at what they do. They’re addicted to a certain type of love (not the healthy kind!).
How to Recognize a Womanizer –
Some psychologists believe womanizers or Casanovas struggle with low self-esteem, and their sexual conquests make them feel better about themselves. It’s a temporary high, though. Womanizers may have unstable or nonexistent relationships with father figures – especially in early childhood – which makes them insecure about who they are.

Well, these are the signs of a womanizer:
-More Facebook posts from girls than guys. His Facebook wall consists of a bunch of girls saying, “I miss you,” “I want to hang out,” or “When am I seeing you?” Trouble!
-He’s overly complimentary. “You have the most beautiful eyes I’ve ever seen.” “You’re gorgeous, and I don’t throw that term around lightly.” “I’ve never been able to open up with a woman the way I have with you.” If he says all of this within the first 15 minutes of the date, then he’s probably wants one thing. Yup, what’s between your legs.
-He confuses you with other girls. Nothing is worse than a guy calling you another girl’s name. Not only do you know that there is someone else, but he also can’t even keep the two of you straight.
-He’s Mr. Future. Unless you’re a woman who is committed to being single, chances are you’re at least open to the idea of meeting someone to eventually settle down with. Womanizers know that, which is why they become Mr. Future. “We can do this, and we can do that, and we can go here and there.” Everything is we, we, we. Womanizers know how to give us what we want, but feel no guilt when they take it away.
-He doesn’t have platonic female friends. A womanizer doesn’t need platonic girl friends because he’s interested in all of them. You can’t be platonic if there is sexual chemistry, right?
-He texts other girls, regularly. If he’s hanging out with you and is constantly on his phone texting other girls, chances are he’s not just interested in you.
-He’s king of nicknames. Sweetie, babe, baby, honey, darling, these easy pet names are the perfect way to make a girl feel special without mixing up real names.
-He keeps his cell phone locked. Men like to be shady in general. They rarely like anyone in their business, but if he’s got his phone on lock down and gets mad when you even glance in its direction, there is a reason for his secrecy. Yeah we get the whole privacy thing, but if you don’t have skeletons, spiders with *lotta* *yucky* cobwebs? …let her check through. That would give her rest of mind, gain trust and SHUT UP!
-His mother calls you another name. If he’s introducing you to his mother, it might seem like you’re special to him. After all, you’re meeting the family. But if his mother confuses you with someone else, perhaps there is a reason for it. You might not be the only woman he’s bringing home to mommy.
-He’s known as a WOMANIZER. Where there is smoke, there is fire. His reputation didn’t come from him being a genuine guy. And you probably can’t change him. And why would you waste your time trying?

This is a *lil* confession from a ‘former
womanizer friend’… *hugegrin*

We enjoy the company and affection of women.  This is pretty obvious already.  But our main goal is not simply to sleep with any Plain busola or chichi or to add any notches to a bedpost.  

Rather, we enjoy the feeling that someone thinks of us and admires us.  Sex is not even necessary.  The simple thought that you can have it at any time is rewarding enough.  In return, we try to show them a good time.  I believe that’s a fair trade.

We have checklists, just like everyone else.  The only difference is, instead of synergy, we embrace interchangeability.  

Normal people make the mistake of applying all their criteria into one person.  This will guarantee disappointment since any individual cannot obtain true perfection.  

A womanizer opts for interchangeability because we understand this fact.  Instead of applying this list to one person, we choose find several different women that can check off each box in their own way.  

For example, we have sporty girl that can have a beer and watch football with us, smart girl that we can talk politics or any intelligent stuff with, hot girl that we can take out and make other guys jealous, etc.  By spreading risk, we minimize disappointment.  Why put all your eggs in one basket?

We are careful.  Contrary to popular belief, we are not a perfect storm of STDs.  We always use condoms and get checked out regularly every year.  

Any guy that pressures you to have sex without protection is simply a moron with a penis.  The last thing we want is to impregnate you and get stuck with 216 monthly payments or contract some viral infection.

What a womanizer is not ‘he says’ :

We are not abusive.  This is because we have plenty of women on the roster and can easily rotate you until you chill out.  

Since you do not monopolize out hearts and penises, we have no reason to get controlling.  Only serious people in serious situations lead to abuse, and that is not our style.  We view women like light bulbs.  As long as we turn them on, everything is fine.  But once they burn out, we just replace them.  Why spend months yelling at a broken light bulb?
 
We never say, “I love you.”  To us, the L word is as powerful as a nuclear bomb and should never be used unless it’s a real end game scenario.  We may tell lies time to time, but we would never resort to this one.

We do not pay for sex, nor do we resort to rape.  Again, we get women for free, so why pay for it?  We always get a bad rep for “taking advantage of women.”  

The truth is, the most we’d ever do is offer them a drink (not spiked).  But it is only an offer and we never insist on it.  

If the girl accepts, then it’s on her own free will.  And I don’t buy into the notion that having drunk sex equates to date rape.  Whether a chick is drunk or not, she can still make bogus claims. Its crazy tho, and all that is in the past in my case.. Its just a phase that fizzles out with maturity and unfortunately in some men, its for ever. *lol*
But remember, even though he fits some of these characteristics doesn’t necessarily mean he’s a womanizer. Just don’t wear your heart on your sleeve; it’s always better to be safe than sorry for that’s the womanizer in him! *wink*

Xoxo
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